Ugh! BYE, you are ruining my vibe.

If you have ever been in a situation or conversation and you are just like why am I still in it I hope you decided to RUN. Protecting your energy and who you share it with is so important, not just for your mental health but also for your overall well being. Sometimes we share and simply give a lot to others and we get lost in the conversation and not realize that it is better for us to leave whenever we are feeling drained. Recognizing the need to leave to save your well being and energy is the level you want to get on knowing the importance of saving your energy.

Being young we tend to say yes to a lot of things because we get excited and we have so much energy and emotions. Although there might be someone you talk to or something you do that drains you and brings you down. I’ll never forget one time I was litterly so happy and was vibrating highly and I started talking to someone and saw how the person tried to bring down their friends to seem cool to others that I was like no I am done. There are certain people that are just simply not good for your energy and that is okay. Repeat that ”It is okay to not match energies with others”.

Babe you don’t have to be in conversations that you don’t want to with people that you think have something for you, but they don’t. You can say no to plans because you want to save your energies. Babe, been there done that. I was going to go on a trip paid everything and simply deep down I knew it was not worth going. Not because the place I was going to wasnt cool because it was, but the people was not my ideal group. So, It takes many lessons to understatd that is okay to leave a conversation, place, friendship, and simply anything that does no good for you.

Your energy is more valuable than anything you will gain from an un necessary conversation.

Mar

Hacks on how to leave energy vamps

1. Don’t hang out with energy vampires

There are some people who simply don’t want whats best for you or don’t have the same values as you. This may cause you to be drained after hanging out or simply having a conversation. That is when you say bye and keep yourself clear of them for your own sake.

2. Set boundaries

 “Understanding the value of time is understanding the true essence of life.”—Sunday Adelaja. Your time is so valuable babe, and you have to understand that not everyone deserves it. If you are not protective about your own energy, how do you plan to not get hurt? When you set boundaries you let others realize where the line is and how they can’t cross it.

3. Do something about it

Sometimes you can be in a situation in which you are so uncomfortable and don’t want others to be in the same one, so you should say something. Make the person who is draining you realize that it is not okay and simply should think about what they are doing. Once you make them realize it is not cool, they will kind of get the point. Bring them down from the cloud they were in.

4. Realize the only thing you can control is the way you act

Life happens and there will always be moments in which you feel drained. Although sometimes you can’t stop anything or control, you can decide what you do in that situation. Leave, confront them, or simply ignore. Up to you.

5. Decide who is worthy of your time and energies

Realizing not everyone is worthy of your time is so important. It might sound mean but no babe it is the truth. Who you surround yourself is who you become. Pick wisely babe, and if you don’t like someone don’t be mean simply keep your boundaries.

I hope this helps, this is what I do. I am super picky who I share time with, especially now and I swear I have noticed a difference in my life.

Xoxo,

Mar